Someone close to my family noticed a remarkable difference between us. According to her observation, half of us are strong and half weak. She defined the strong ones as those who feel comfortable alone and don’t need the approval or attention of others. She gave JP as an example of strong and Andy of weak. According to the same person, JP is hard and difficult to be moved, while Andy is very sensitive.
Even though I think JP is not entirely hard and Andy absolutely sensitive, I suppose she is kind of right. The Literature is full of extreme temperaments changing with time – as a proof that no one is purely this and that. I also believe I am responsible for the strong part of this now African family. Having said that, I have to admit that it’s not the sensitivity I marvel at in the other half. It’s the attention they crave and constantly require from the other half. It’s really strange, irritating and exhausting. Differences in character are difficult to understand, manage and accept.
It’s quite interesting how people pick facets of our personalities. The idea they have about us. The simplified versions of us… The stereotypes. No one is perfectly strong or weak. As for the need for attention, the aspect I so disapprove, I have to be sincere: even if I can live without it, there are rare moments when attention is welcomed. I also think that people not craving the attention of many only care about the attention of one.