This is an adult theme. Don’t read it if you are not interested in my own opinion.
I don’t intend to bore you or myself to death with a long dissertation on treason. Since someone was betrayed because of 30 coins it has become clear that treason is nothing but a sort of commercial operation. We betray because we get something out of it, either 30 coins or something less metallic. In the end we get what we need, we miss or we never had.
Believing in Literature, what we get never compensates what we lose. You never come out as a winner. Reality seems to point to a different direction.
Instead of staying in the domain of theoretical considerations, I decided to mix this theme with the approaching Mozambican Women’s Day and see what comes out of this partnership theme-event.
First of all I have to inform that we are about to celebrate Mozambican Women’s Day (April 7), one of the main festivities around here. Secondly, I have to underline that I respect and admire immensely the role of women in this country. They struggle against daily want and unfairness. They are the main existing social structure.
Having said that, I start to talk about a different category of women locally engineered. The last two generations of Mozambican women were composed of fighters: first freedom fighters and then fighters against the hardship of the first two decades of independence. We are starting to know about a third generation, born and raised during peace and better times. Though this is not a hat fitting all heads, this new breed doesn’t seem to have the same aura and stamina of the first two.
Young women are doing the same mistakes previous generations have done, but they don’t accept the inherent responsibilities, maybe because they still have some heroic mother at their side, eager to do all sacrifices so that her children have a better life than they had. I am referring to my cook Tieta, who is raising 3 children and a grandchild too – so that her own daughter keeps partying with boyfriends. I could name a few other cases with the same contours, but I stick to the one I’ve been following more closely. But this is just one side of the story.
When I started this blog I was willingly defending the women known as sugar daddies. I thought the hardship of this society could justify their actions. I am no longer so understanding since I realized that sugar girls are not truly needed, but a trend in this society – a materialist trend very unpleasant to witness. They usually come from middle class families and have as a motto: “Why work or bother if it’s so good the way it is?”
My mind changed after closely witnessing how a sugar girl acts. I decided to tell about my own experience so that my words can alert you against this new specimen: sugar daddies.
Contrary to JP wild options, Andy is the kind of person who likes to be in a steady relationship. I realized how he suffered during years because he couldn’t find someone he really liked. When he found a Mozambican girl he seemed more attached to, we investigated a bit about her and she seemed okay. Her family is middle class, her mother works in the local court, her sister a lawyer and herself having a couple of years studying at the university. We closed our investigation and let their relationship sail fine weather.
Unfortunately, two or three months later, a series of incidents led me to the sad conclusion that she wasn’t a suitable partner for Andy. However, I kept quiet. I couldn’t interfere. I just turned to Paul and mentioned: “Andy’s girlfriend is no good. She is capable of selling herself.” And I rested my case.
Approximately a month ago, JP and a friend received an alert message from a known friend, calling them to one of the most exclusive places in town, where they would witness that same girl befriending another guy, presumably to get a USD 1.000 worth cell phone.
(I don’t know what’s going on with people and tech gadgets… It seems like if they don’t have it they miss a limp or worst. TD’s girlfriend and I have one of those old cell phones I use to call my VW. Every single year the phone operator offers a new model I am always passing to someone else who needs it. I stick to my old one. Maybe if I had to use it frequently I would feel the need to change. I really don’t understand the motives making people want the latest models so badly.)
JP wasn’t in Maputo, but when he returned he confirmed that the girl had a new expensive cell phone. He heard the witnesses with more care and alerted Andy to the situation.
Instead of investigating, Andy talked with her and embarked in what have been weeks of a second order sitcom: he gathers evidence while she cleverly fights it. I have to admit: either she likes him, despite of all, or she hates to admit the truth about herself. The other guy might have the money, but he surely misses something that Andy possesses or represents.
I’ve asked Paul to listen to the witnesses and make up his mind (mine has been set a long ago) and he returned saying: “They sound serious and believable.”
“If they like each other… If he likes her, he should stay with her, knowing what she is and maybe including her in a different project… You know what I mean.” I told JP.
“No way…” remarked JP. “I cannot agree with you because in the meantime she revealed to be a really bad character. In order to defend herself, she is throwing Andy against the world, including against close friends and me. She has done things like diverting phone calls so that a friend of mine would appear as the instigator of the intrigue about her.”
In short, JP is not worried because she was bad, but because she is bad. Cheating is no longer the worst, but things like her aggressive attitude. She invaded that condominium with a well-placed relative (it’s common here the use of a relative to intimidate others), only to hear the witness reconfirming that she was the one.
Just like Andy, JP experience difficulties in finding suitable girls, but he is far more realistic and content with short-term relationships. It’s not a surprise they experience such difficulties with the kind of life they have. The main difference is that JP knows. And when I remark: “JP, that girl is no good,” he replies: “Eu sei. Dinheiro na mão, calcinha no chão.” I am not translating due to the bold nature of his comment. You may guess, though.
Sugar girls can easily promote group promiscuity. I witnessed a situation of that sort when JP was dating one of them for a week or so and had to leave for a job. The girl automatically turned to someone else in the group. She picked NB (Oh, the irony!), the only married with a child diver, messing with the lives of a few forever.
Andy is clearly divided between suspecting and wanting to believe in her excuses. He is like someone about to drown but still believing in miracles. In the middle of the prevailing nonsense, he decided to contact a local investigation team. (Ha, ha, ha!) They are not private detectives, but the only official investigation unit existing in Mozambique capable of tracing phone calls and taking further actions.
Andy doesn’t believe in eye witnessing, because of reasons like: 1) People are naturally bad. 2) People envy her because she is with a white boy. 3) There are so many girls that some of them would feel happy with another single guy around. Needless to say, those are her favorite defense arguments too.
The investigators said: “We will present a report and if Andy still doesn’t believe in our conclusions, then we will take further measures like investigating phone calls and so on…” For Andy, the phone calls are the ultimate evidence and that’s why he turned his private drama into a public affair.
Action seems to have stopped in favor of the two, while the investigators take their time. We all wait. Knowing. There’s not a single friend or soul around here with doubts, except for Andy. We just wait for his reaction when he realizes the truth. If he realizes the truth… If he let us know that he realizes the truth…
Treason exists because people do it and survive. Treason exists because there are always people willing to forgive and forget, either because they have a notion that they somehow deserve it or because the infidelity of a partner gives and takes something: more freedom and power to the betrayed, less freedom and power to the betrayer. That’s why people accept treason.